They say you should “find your people”. Link up with those who understand you and who you feel you can be yourself around. It’s a survival tactic that calls to our most primitive instincts. Animals have been gathering in herds and groupings of similar species since the beginning of time. It’s not just a way of sorting ourselves out but also a way to socialize and to find those who can support you, understand you, love you, protect you and help you grow.

These may be the people who you raise your children with. They may be your neighbors, a core group of folks from a place like your church or school or some other local meeting place. Or if you’re like me, they will be people you will wait for…and wait for. You’ll hope and pray and wait a little more until finally one day, you find them…or, really they find you. They will be wonderful people who live in your community and have lived there all along but you just needed to meet them at a women’s retreat, or a wood stacking party or some other fun local social gatherings.

Sometimes it takes work to find your people. You have to put yourself out there and you have to be willing to do the work. It can feel an awful lot like “friend dating”. And sometimes you have to take the initiative and call a new friend, remembering that other people might have some of the same difficulties and struggles meeting other people that you maybe once had, so don’t take it personally if it takes a few tries to meet up. I promise you, in the end, when you have a squad like the one I’ve been blessed with, you will realize that it’s all so very worth it.

Join things, go to meetups, ask a friend to introduce you to people because a brush fire that starts small can become a full-blown forest fire of friends. Soon you’ll be wood stacking, wood stripping and swimming in every body of water in your little community. But you’ll have the best time doing it. And the margaritas are pretty great too!! To the ladies I’ve had from the very beginning to the friends who have only recently popped into my life, YOU are TOTALLY what THE GOOD STUFF is all about!!

#SQUADGOALS

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